Ministries

Nehemiah Project Christian Counseling

Nehemiah Project is a Christian Ministry that promotes spiritual wholeness, inner healing, and spiritual growth through counseling, biblical principles, and structured programs that focus on equipping, empowering, restoration, awareness, and liberation from domestic violence, sexual assault, and substance abuse.

What We Do

The Nehemiah Project Ministry offers prayer, confidential email, church-wide, and community education as well as referrals for shelter care, safety planning, and counseling and support groups.

Victims can email us directly at Lscott520@comcast.net

What is Domestic Abuse?

Domestic violence is a pattern of coercive, intimidating, or violent behavior used to gain and maintain power and control over an intimate partner or household member. It happens through a variety of means, such as emotional, sexual, religious, or physical abuse. Specific physical examples include slapping, shoving, hitting, choking, physically restraining, throwing things, and sexual assault.

Types of Abuse

Emotional: Isolation from family and friends, no privacy, belittling acts that cause or could cause mental anguish or distress; threats of physical danger, intimidation;
Financially Controlling: Not paying bills, sabotaging credit/welfare, allowance, control resources;
Physical: Restraining: pushing, throwing objects, kicking, using weapons, pinching, slapping, choking, punching, murder;
Sexual: Unwanted sexual contact, forcible touching, rape, degrading; infidelity; non-consensual sexual contact of any kind;
Verbal: Name-calling, threats, racial slurs, put-downs, constant criticism, telling victim s/he is worthless (public and private);

Recognizing Abuse

Does your partner. . . ?

Embarrass you with put-downs?
Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
Control what you do, whom you see or talk to, or where you go?
Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money, or refuse to give you money?
Make all of the decisions?
Tell you that you are a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?
Prevent you from working or attending school?
Act like the abuse is no big deal; it is your fault, or even deny doing it?
Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?
Intimidate you with guns, knives, or other weapons?
Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
Force you to try and drop charges?
Threaten to commit suicide?
Threaten to kill you?

If you answered “yes” to even one of these questions, you might be in an abusive relationship.

National Domestic Violence Hotline

1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3224

Get Help

If you are in immediate danger, please dial 911.

Tips for Safety

Are you planning on staying with your partner?

Identify things that have worked in the past to keep you safe.
Think about what has happened in the past and how the abuser has acted.
Identify clues that indicate when things are about to get violent, i.e., behavioral, body language, drug and alcohol use, major events, paydays, or holidays
Explore ways to have dangerous weapons, e.g., guns or hunting knives, removed from the house.
Identify dangerous locations in the house and try not to be trapped in them.
Let trusted friends and neighbors know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal for when you need help.
Teach your children how to get help. Instruct them not to get involved in the violence between you and your partner. Plan a code word to signal to them that they should get help or leave the house.
Plan an escape route and practice it. Know beforehand where you can go and whom you can call for help.

If you are planning to leave, be prepared:

Make a plan for how and where you will escape.
Put aside emergency money as you can.
Hide an extra set of car keys.
Pack an extra set of clothes for yourself and your children and store them at a trusted friend or neighbor's house. Try to avoid using the homes of next-door neighbors, close family members, and mutual friends.
Take important phone numbers of friends, relatives, doctors, schools with you including but not limited to:
- Driver's License
- Birth Certificate
- Social Security Cards
- Regularly needed medication
- Credit cards or a list of credit cards you hold yourself or jointly
- Pay stubs
- Checkbooks and information about bank accounts